We are constantly bombarded with messages about how important it is to be an effective parent—look at me, I am part of the bombardment, LOL! Advice is all around us in the form of self-help and how to parenting books, newspaper articles, reality tv shows etc., but do we really pay attention? Do we practice the skills we are learning, or do we resort back to old habits that are ineffective?
I have been studying child and adolescent behavior and practicing effective parenting techniques for many years, and I still have to be acutely aware of my interactions with my girls. I have to practice the skills that I know and teach on a daily basis. Only through personal awareness, patience with myself and enhanced self-care do slots I have the ability to stay on top of my game. It is easy to fall back into the same old patterns of manipulation and punishment, which don“t help my daughters, and certainly don“t make me feel good about my parenting.
I want to encourage each of you to practice one effective or positive parenting technique of which you are aware. If you are in a rut and find yourself constantly nagging, and feeling frustrated and without the tools you need to be effective, then leave me a comment here, and I will help you find an effective technique you can start practicing today!