Comments for Marni Parsons | A Coach for Parents http://acoach4parents.com Helping Parents Gain Greater Cooperation and More Joy! Tue, 28 Jun 2011 15:13:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 Comment on services by Parent coaching explained by Positive Discipline Parent Educator Marni Parsons http://acoach4parents.com/services/comment-page-1/#comment-562 Parent coaching explained by Positive Discipline Parent Educator Marni Parsons Tue, 28 Jun 2011 15:13:49 +0000 http://localhost/marniparson/?page_id=18#comment-562 [...] Marni and other primogenitor coaches are means to support relatives who live anywhere. Marni’s parent coaching packages also embody total e-mail support and ongoing write sessions of 45 – 50 mins any [...] [...] Marni and other primogenitor coaches are means to support relatives who live anywhere. Marni’s parent coaching packages also embody total e-mail support and ongoing write sessions of 45 – 50 mins any [...]

]]> Comment on It’s As Simple As Asking a Question by Leslie http://acoach4parents.com/its-as-simple-as-asking-a-question/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Leslie Fri, 20 May 2011 20:56:08 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=457#comment-556 Thanks Marni. This is a great article with simple, clear ways to engage our kids! Thanks for yet another "tool" to add to my Mommy Toolbox! Thanks Marni. This is a great article with simple, clear ways to engage our kids! Thanks for yet another “tool” to add to my Mommy Toolbox!

]]> Comment on The Naughty Chair is Exile for Little People! by Talk to children Expert: Anne Lee http://acoach4parents.com/the-naughty-chair-is-exile-for-little-people/comment-page-1/#comment-451 Talk to children Expert: Anne Lee Wed, 26 Jan 2011 21:23:25 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=350#comment-451 Very good article. I think the fundamental component of acquiring in addition to kids is talking to them the proper way. Very good article. I think the fundamental component of acquiring in addition to kids is talking to them the proper way.

]]> Comment on 11 Tips to Soothe Sibling Rivalry by Coach Marni http://acoach4parents.com/11-tips-to-soothe-sibling-rivalry/comment-page-1/#comment-431 Coach Marni Wed, 05 Jan 2011 19:04:49 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=376#comment-431 Hi, Pam, Thanks for the feedback. A great resource about sibling rivalry is the book <em>Siblings Without Rivalry</em>. Dealing specific with children to help them resolve their conflicts is not as difficult as it may seem. Here are the simple steps I use: 1. Let the children know you are there to help--in a calm and reassuring voice. (It's necessary to make sure everyone is pretty calm at this point, if not, take the time to let everyone calm down before engaging in the following steps) 2. Here each child's side of the story. As for clarification if necessary and repeat back what each child says so that you know you've got it, and they feel heard. 3. Validate and empathize with both children about how they are feeling. 4. Ask each child what it is they would like to have happen next. (If you have very young children you may need to help give suggestions to help solve their problem, but ultimately they should decide how it is they want to solve it) 5. Follow through with the solution they chose, and check back in to see if it's working for both children. A special note: It's okay for one of the children to still be upset, sad, angry etc. even after the conflict resolution has happened. Children need to learn how to deal with tough emotions too. I find it helpful to partner with that child, and continue to validate what they are experiencing and show faith that they can handle it. I would love to hear how this works for you, so please keep in touch! Marni Hi, Pam, Thanks for the feedback. A great resource about sibling rivalry is the book Siblings Without Rivalry. Dealing specific with children to help them resolve their conflicts is not as difficult as it may seem. Here are the simple steps I use:

1. Let the children know you are there to help–in a calm and reassuring voice. (It’s necessary to make sure everyone is pretty calm at this point, if not, take the time to let everyone calm down before engaging in the following steps)
2. Here each child’s side of the story. As for clarification if necessary and repeat back what each child says so that you know you’ve got it, and they feel heard.
3. Validate and empathize with both children about how they are feeling.
4. Ask each child what it is they would like to have happen next. (If you have very young children you may need to help give suggestions to help solve their problem, but ultimately they should decide how it is they want to solve it)
5. Follow through with the solution they chose, and check back in to see if it’s working for both children.

A special note: It’s okay for one of the children to still be upset, sad, angry etc. even after the conflict resolution has happened. Children need to learn how to deal with tough emotions too. I find it helpful to partner with that child, and continue to validate what they are experiencing and show faith that they can handle it.

I would love to hear how this works for you, so please keep in touch!

Marni

]]> Comment on 11 Tips to Soothe Sibling Rivalry by Pam http://acoach4parents.com/11-tips-to-soothe-sibling-rivalry/comment-page-1/#comment-430 Pam Wed, 05 Jan 2011 17:26:57 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=376#comment-430 I appreciate the tips and wonder if you have any suggestions for resources dealing with conflict resolution and problem solving? I appreciate the tips and wonder if you have any suggestions for resources dealing with conflict resolution and problem solving?

]]> Comment on Family Traditions Foster Social and Emotional Development by Nakeya http://acoach4parents.com/family-traditions-foster-social-and-emotional-development/comment-page-1/#comment-357 Nakeya Wed, 24 Nov 2010 04:22:22 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=363#comment-357 Love this, thanks Marni! Love this, thanks Marni!

]]> Comment on The Naughty Chair is Exile for Little People! by Coach Marni http://acoach4parents.com/the-naughty-chair-is-exile-for-little-people/comment-page-1/#comment-351 Coach Marni Sun, 21 Nov 2010 02:22:37 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=350#comment-351 Szilvia, I am humbled by your encouragement! I would love nothing more than to have that job. Szilvia, I am humbled by your encouragement! I would love nothing more than to have that job.

]]> Comment on The Naughty Chair is Exile for Little People! by Szilvia Campbell http://acoach4parents.com/the-naughty-chair-is-exile-for-little-people/comment-page-1/#comment-350 Szilvia Campbell Sat, 20 Nov 2010 04:45:03 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=350#comment-350 Marni, when is media going to recognize that THEY NEED COACH MARNI instead of airing super-nanny and such? i'm really hoping that these times will come! people need to hear your loving and wise voice!! with love, Szilvia Marni, when is media going to recognize that THEY NEED COACH MARNI instead of airing super-nanny and such? i’m really hoping that these times will come! people need to hear your loving and wise voice!! with love, Szilvia

]]> Comment on The Naughty Chair is Exile for Little People! by Coach Marni http://acoach4parents.com/the-naughty-chair-is-exile-for-little-people/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Coach Marni Fri, 19 Nov 2010 17:16:03 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=350#comment-348 Thanks, Alice, for your comment. It is so wonderful to hear from someone who is on the other side of those trying early years of parenting. You give hope to so many! Thanks, Alice, for your comment. It is so wonderful to hear from someone who is on the other side of those trying early years of parenting. You give hope to so many!

]]> Comment on The Naughty Chair is Exile for Little People! by Alice Hanscam http://acoach4parents.com/the-naughty-chair-is-exile-for-little-people/comment-page-1/#comment-347 Alice Hanscam Fri, 19 Nov 2010 17:14:35 +0000 http://acoach4parents.com/?p=350#comment-347 I spent some time thinking about how I handled my girls (now 17 and 20) and I can honestly say I never once used a time out. Never made sense to me. Like you, I walked my girls through things, helping them learn, removing them or an item when necessary, sitting with them as they calmed down, etc. Time outs never made sense to me because they taught nothing...unless it was used as "taking a break" then it was a shared moment. Also, I realize because I put so much into guiding my girls, time outs/punishment was rarely if ever necessary. I think you totally know what I mean... I spent some time thinking about how I handled my girls (now 17 and 20) and I can honestly say I never once used a time out. Never made sense to me. Like you, I walked my girls through things, helping them learn, removing them or an item when necessary, sitting with them as they calmed down, etc. Time outs never made sense to me because they taught nothing…unless it was used as “taking a break” then it was a shared moment. Also, I realize because I put so much into guiding my girls, time outs/punishment was rarely if ever necessary. I think you totally know what I mean…

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